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Daughter’s How Do You Deal With…..

One of my brothers is coming down from Texas, coordinating a funeral for his “mom”. Here’s a clip notes version of my relationship with my mom. There are five of us siblings. To start since childhood, I always felt she favored my brothers over her one daughter, me. She has issues and is estranged from me from my dad treating me as his little girl. Ever since they’ve divorced thirteen years later, my mom has visited us kids and treating me differently. She’s nice to my brothers. Feeds them, clothes them, loves joking and being around them.

As I grew into adulthood, she has remarried, and her husband has been mute, most of the time. I have come to the conclusion, that for some reason, and I hate to say it. She may not like women. I don’t want to assume this, but my mom and I don’t have healthy discussions. My brother asked me why (my mother and I) weren’t talking despite giving my best observation. My brother didn’t like to hear it. And we had a disagreement as we discussed over the phone or tried. I will also add, I tried to make amends with my mom in the past, and she threw it in my face that I was unpleasant to be around. He dismissed this. The phone talk didn’t really end well, and we ended the phone conversation. I received a text message from him the next morning apologizing. I replied back that I prefer to have an in-person conversation as I felt text message can be misinterpreted. I do hope when we meet up at the funeral, we can smooth out our issues or at least have an optimal discussion.

What about other daughters? What kind of relationship do you have with your mother? Do you have healthy conversations?