Pearltruths

I am not a mental health professional, but what I can tell is you what not to do when you’ve stepped into a circle of people having conversations, and at that moment you’re feeling toxic behavior. This also applies to you if you’re in an existing relationship, or in the beginning stages of one. And from my experience, first impression is a big deal. Hands down. However, we don’t always see the signs right away. So, here’s a list of “What Not to Do’s”, which I hope you’ll find helpful for your own sanity. It requires observation, self-awareness, or on your journey to self-discovery and to know who you are.

My Nugget

This is my little story of how I arrived at my place of truth. I was dating for just a little bit. I knew I wasn’t getting serious and was just having fun. Also, I didn’t have many boyfriends. It wasn’t like that at all.

I went out with a couple of men. One guy was considerably younger and gorgeous. The other was a tad bit older and had dimples. Yes, I’m a sucker for dimples. 👌 And considering how well I knew myself and am pretty self-aware, there seemed to be a pattern of the same behavior, by the communication and how they showed up.

Not feeling good about it and found it unattractive and honestly, didn’t feel safe. In short, they were not a good fit. Mind you, that was only a couple of men, but that’s all it took. It became obvious after two attempts.

So, my intuition kicked on high gear. The realization that I have experienced enough and been around the block, it didn’t take much to figure out I didn’t want to be there. I was simply tired of it. So, I threw in the towel, “so to speak”, and walked. That’s my nugget of truth and I’m happier now than I’ve ever been. How about you? First of all, there is no shame. With all this said, we all need to work on ourselves without judgment.

Lesson

The takeaway from this. Never ignore a woman’s intuition. When you ignore your internal dialogue, you’re ultimately, and truthfully betraying yourself. My inner child knows not to do that, and so do I. And in doing so: Do not…..

1. Continue the conversation when you already feel uncomfortable and awkward

2.Stay at the table- when you’re feeling an eerie or dark vibe

3.Step outside or away after you’ve had a few drinks, and they gradually invite you to their car

4.Continue feeding the gossip mill even after you ended the conversation because you’re tired of hearing their bs

5. Allow him/her to get possessive with you

6.Allow them to keep tabs on you, watching your text messages, looking at your missed calls, interrogate you constantly

There are an abundance of great reasons on “What Not to Do’s”, I just wanted to share a few… to give you an idea on when to remove yourself in an uncomfortable scenario that does not serve you and does not require a therapist to tell you, so you can save your money. Feel good wherever you go……. You deserve better…… Bye for now and stay tuned….

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How about you? Has anyone encountered a situation where you didn’t feel safe? Please share your thoughts, and what did work for you….

Pearl